All About LOVE!!!

•December 13, 2011 • Leave a Comment

Isn’t it nice to have someone to say good morning or good night to? Or perhaps somebody whom you enjoy the pleasure of her/his company till the wee hours of the morning talking sweet nothings? Isn’t it cool to receive the last call of the day from somebody close to you? If your answer is yes..then read on…..

For all you people who say “I love you” when you have no clue what exactly love is !!! Something to ponder upon…..

Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing and is your voice caught within your chest??
-It isn’t love, it’s LIKE.

You can’t keep your eyes or hands off of them, am I right??
-It isn’t love, it’s LUST.

Are you proud, and eager to show them off??
-It isn’t love, it’s LUCK.

Do you want them because you know they’re there??
-It isn’t love, it’s LONELINESS.

Are you there because it’s what everyone wants??
-It isn’t love, it’S LOYALTY.

Are you there because they kissed you, or held your hand??
-It isn’t love, it’s LOW CONFIDENCE.

Do you stay for their confessions of love, because you\don’t want to hurt them??
-It isn’t love, it’s PITY.

Do you belong to them because their sight makes your heart skip a beat??
-It isn’t love, it’s INFATUATION.

Do you pardon their faults because you care about them??
-It isn’t love, it’s FRIENDSHIP.

Do you tell them every day they are the only one you think of??
-It isn’t love, it’s a LIE.

Are you willing to give all of your favorite things for their sake??
-It isn’t love, it’s CHARITY.

Does your heart ache and break when they’re sad??
-Then it’s LOVE.

Do you cry for their pain, even when they’re strong??
-Then it’s LOVE.

Do their eyes see your true heart, and touch your soul so deeply it hurts??
-Then it’s LOVE.

Do you stay because a blinding, incomprehensible mix of pain and relation pulls you close and holds you there??
-Then it’s LOVE.

Do you accept their faults because they’re a part of who they are??
-Then it’s LOVE.

Are you attracted to others, but stay with them faithfully without regret??
-Then it’s LOVE.

Would you give them your heart, your life, your death??
-Then it’s LOVE.

Now, if love is painful, and tortures us so, why do we love? Why is it all we search for in life? This pain, this agony? Why is it all we long for? This torture, this powerful death of self? Why? The answer is so simple…
Because it’s…LOVE. It is such an addictive thing that even people who are not having it wish to experience it.


“It is wrong to think that love comes from long companionship and persevering courtship. Love is the offspring of spiritual affinity and unless that affinity is created in a moment, it will not be created for years or even generations.” — Khalil Gibran


Priorities: Sort Them Out

•September 22, 2009 • Leave a Comment

At least once in a lifetime or may be more than once, many of us ask this question, either to themselves or to others, What are we supposed to do in our life? Seldom do people bother to answer this question themselves. It’s not that they don’t want to, it’s simply because if they do then they will come to know the so called Bitter Truth. And very rarely people do accept that fact or actuality; not because it’s difficult but on account of the fact that they don’t have courage to accept the truth.

Every single living entity has priorities in their life and it is these priorities which propel their life on a particular track; it may be or may not be the right one, depends upon the individual. But how can we define Priorities? What are our priorities? Are they the right ones?  Are we giving them the prior attention which they are supposed to get? Are we dealing with those in the order we are supposed to?

If we spend a few minutes of a day just to think what we are doing, why we are doing, how we are doing and most importantly are these the things we are supposed to do, then we might be able to figure out what exactly our priorities are and whether we are giving them the attention which is required. Whatever time we spend doing things on an average day decides what our priorities are and this doesn’t mean that those are the right one. Because may be we are spending time every single day on some futile activity which is of no use neither to us nor to the people whom we care about. Then why do we engage ourselves in that line, is it because of our ignorance or is it the habit which we have formed?

I will try to express this in greater detail by quoting an example of a student:  Let us assume there is a student who goes to school/college every day. After he comes back what is he supposed to do? According to me he should relax for some time and then go through the contents of whatever he studied in school that day. Once he is done with that he should engage himself in an activity outside his regular occupation and after that may be a little bit of self study to stay in touch with all whatever he has learned so far. This is how he should prioritize the things because for him it is the studies which need prominence. Similarly each and every individual has a specific set of tasks which has to be given the much needed attention as per their significance. If for example, a person who gets up early in the morning and goes for work, is doing it just because he has to but not because he likes to do it; in that case it’s the time when he should think about the priorities in his life.


Most of us simply go through the motions, without even having a slightest idea of what we are doing, is it what we are supposed to and whether those acts which we carry out have any meaning associated to them. And this is one of the reasons why most of us do not achieve the goals which we are supposed to even though we are capable of achieving it. It’s just a matter of spending few minutes daily to analyze what are the things which we need to do in order to safe guard our own future. When we get an answer to this, then we can prioritize those things and only then we will be able to find the right way of achieve those goals.

“The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.” – Stephen R. Covey

DEATH: The Inevitable Truth

•September 21, 2009 • Leave a Comment

Early morning at 3:19 am, I got a news about a friend’s sad demise. Even though I didn’t know him, but he was a very good friend of one of my friends’.  Well, the entire weekend was already screwed up and this just added more miseries to it. I was nonplussed and faced with a decision. To accept this bitter truth of life or to deny it.

DEATH as people say, and are scared of is the only truth of life. Although many of you reading this will feel  that this is nothing but philosophy. But sooner or later everyone realises this thing.  Some people die too young and some die too old, but the fact remains that everyone has to face it at the right time. The only thing that matters is when people die at the wrong time that is what causes this deep mental anguish. But this question arises, who has the right to decide which is the right time? WE?

“Death, the one appointment we all must keep, and for which no time is set” – Charlie Chan

DeathThis one incident happened few years ago, while I was pursuing my graduation, one of very good friend of mine died in front of me. Not only me but there were dozens of other people  when all of a sudden this happened and none of us had a clue, how or why. We tried our best to get medical assistance for him as fast as we could, but all in vain. The doctors declared him as dead, and the cause was believed to be heat stroke. It all happened so fast that we didn’t even had time to think what was happening around us. Everything seemed to be DARK; an endless tunnel, with the absence of light and apparently no one had any clue how to get out of this.

The next day after attending the funeral, I quietly sat in my room and was thinking about all that had happened in past 24 hours. His parents, siblings, friends and everyone present at the funeral were crying aloud for that person who was dead for he left all deserted. But immediately the following day, I saw atleast  more than eighty percent of the people who were so-effected by this incident roaming around happily as if nothing ever happened. Or maybe they were trying to deny the actuality.

This made me think, whether they were tormented in real by this undeserved fate of that guy. And the answer I got was, NO. Very soon I realised that the only lot who was suffering and was inconsolable included his family(only parents, siblings and a few relatives) and a very few friends. The rest, what happened to them? Were they devoid of all the emotions? And it was just a matter of time before I concluded that the humans were programmed this way, to react to a certain emotion without even feeling the intensity of it. And this conclusion was not on the basis of my assumptions; all the facts were justified.

Nothing much has changed from that day to today, still people are the same. They will mourn and cry out loud even if they hardly know the unfortunate victim. The people who endure this pain and are distressed will be up to themselves, trying to figure out how and why the things went wrong; whether they can somehow change the past or not and may more questions.

But the point is how soon you can accept this truth and reconcile yourself to these changes, even though it is a herculean task. It requires a determined effort from within to come back to the tranquil state of mind. The person who left us all abandoned would have never thought that we should be distressed because of him. So as an honour or to show respect for that person, we should try and do the best what we can to make our lives better. Because in the end he would have thought and wished the same for us.  All that matters is how fast we can adapt to this inevitable change.

So what I can sum up here is that none of the mortals have this power to change, but the only thing they can do is face the change; which they have to. Pain is natural, however instead of crying and whining over the things that have happened in past, if we take cognizance of the things that are supposed to be done maybe it will be beneficial to us and apart from that it will give some peace to the soul of the deceased. No matter how much we try to avoid, but the ultimate truth will be, and is DEATH.

“For death begins with life’s first breath, And life begins at touch of death” – John Oxenham

Are they really worth?

•February 4, 2009 • Leave a Comment

All of us have friends, some have few, some have many and seldom we see people who don’t have any. Why do we need them when we have so many other relations to carry forward? Can’t we simply shove them away? This is a difficult one to answer. I myself have many times felt this “shove them away” vibe. But still, have never been able to do that. And the reason, even I don’t know. Maybe that I need them to be besides me everytime or maybe I am used to them for such a long time now. But the bottomline is that it is very difficult to push them away, when they had been with us for such a long time now.FRIENDS

Have we ever given a thought that “Why we have a best friend?” ,”Why can’t every friend be a best friend?” and many like that. I am sure the answer will be NO, because we never felt doing that. We always knew that we have many friends with us and some among those are good or the best for us. But the day we ask this question to ourselves we will really come to know whether many of those are worth even being considered as a friend.

We will find that many of them are sticking with us only for their sake, and the benefits which they may gain directly or indirectly from us. So the day we come to know what the truth is what should be the next step from our side? Should we let them go or let them know?

I will leave this question for you to answer, because that step that we will take depends upon our nature and the fact that how those so-called friends have affected us in our daily life.

From last few days I am again and again giving a thought to this, and I am in a complete dilemma right now. I often come to the conclusion that the best way to deal with them is to shove them away from me. But then suddenly I think why not give them another chance, after all they are also human beings, and no single person out here is perfect. But, are they really worth that?


•January 18, 2009 • Leave a Comment



Today its raining right from the morning and it seems as if its not going to stop at all. Its Raining, RAINING and R.A.I.N.I.N.G. The sky is dull with a very dense cloud cover, personification of a person who is in intense pain and is crying, so that atleast anyone who hears it’s cries attends to him. The environment is absolutely dispirited and is lacking responsiveness, unlikely to that on the bright sunny days.

The rain came all of a sudden and then what we saw was the sky crying profusely, may be it is also in deep pain and suffering, after having a view of what is happening here on the Mother Earth. The Mankind is neither doing any justice to himself nor to this nature, trying to tamper the laws laid down by the nature every now and then. He is pretending as if he has the absolute power and the absolute authority,  but this attitude if carried forward is going to lead him in the middle of nowhere. And then from that point nobody, not even the Mother can take him out.  Sooner rather than later he will have to pay a huge cost if he continues to intrude and fiddle with the Supreme Laws of the Nature. We have already seen this rain itself taking drastic forms in terms of Floods, Tsunami, Cyclones and causing greatest severities.

What I wish, is that every person start respecting this Supreme Authority and I am sure Success will be all our’s. Let us all pray that this rain, as it comes down wash away all our troubles and keep us happy and prosperous in the coming years.


•December 13, 2008 • Leave a Comment

Many a times, this thought comes to my mind “What is Life?”. And whenever I start looking out for an answer, I end up at the same place where I started. The simpler this question seems to be the more complicated it’s answer is. People have tried and tried but nobody succeeded, and to my surprise still people are there who want the answer of this question and one of them is me.

Everybody has his/her own perception of life, as he/she has seen it and lived it. But shouldn’t there be an answer to this? A basic answer which fits into each and every perception and bring everybody to a same level. There is one of many friends’ of mine who used to say “Life is a Bitch”. But my question is why? Maybe this was what perception that person had. And one person used to say “Life is Living to the fullest”. The logical definition of Life is very well interpreted in one of the Quote’s of ANNE WILSON SCHAEF which says, Life is a process. We are a process. The universe is a process. Truly life is a process, that too a complicated one which is full of endothermic and exothermic events which complement themselves at all times.

The more we start thinking over this question, we will get entangled in our own questions and answers. So let us leave this question for our philosophers to answer and till the time we are alive let us lead a fearless life and dedicate some part of our live’s for the welfare of others. So that in the end, we don’t have to regret that our life didn’t had any meaning to it.